What makes a man?

Since young, we pinned hopes on our parents that whatever they tell us are true. And that they will never lie to us.

We grow up and realise our parents lie to us, about keeping that pet dog when we are old enough (never happens). About them always being right (not always). Etc.

I don't trust my parents words 100% from then on.

Then we fall in love with jerks and realise they lie as well, and not everyone who says they will never lie are good people. I gave up trying to hope that liars make good lovers.

Then we meet 'the one' and imperfect humans like them lie as well. And I wonder, do we not deserve the truth from anyone throughout our lives? Where can we find that 1 person who wouldn't lie in your face no matter what happens?

Even marriages have vows and it is mutually agreed, based solely on trust, that neither of the couple is going to break his/her words. Through life and death, never to betray one another, etc etc.

Look at the divorce rates.


Trust is so important, and yet so fragile.
People nowadays are placing lesser and lesser importance in the essence of a relationship and emphasizing more on materialistic 'acheivements'.

What for be elated over a $5K diamond ring or a $10K Chanel bag if this guy doesn't adhere to his promises?

What for feel happy over a Paris trip when he doesn't take you to the zoo which he promised to take you 2 months ago?

And because people are so easily swayed by materialistic wants, they override the basic rule of a relationship - honour your words, big or small.

A lie, big or small, is still a lie.

The moment someone decides to lie to you, you are not worth the truth to him.

I hold on to the principle of being honest closely. And until that day someone understands and respect this point as well as I do, perhaps that is when I find my answer.



So what makes a man?



His words. His honoured words.